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REMEMBERING WHAT IS SAID
Do you remember everything
That they told you?
"Weren't you listening?"
"I just told you about this, yesterday!'
"I wish that you would pay attention, for once!"
"How many times have I told you?"
Sound
familiar? But, are you usually on the giving or
the receiving end of these comments?
Fact
is, there is often one
spouse who
seems to bear the brunt of these remarks. Sometimes, it is because
the other partner is too passive or afraid to say these things,
themselves, for fear of dealing with a combination of defensive
comments and a verbal lashing. Other times, it is because one
spouse consistently chooses poor timing to bring something up. (They
ask a favor of their husband/ wife while that person is watching a
football game, or while they are dealing with a crying child, or
rushing out the door because they are late for an appointment, or...
) And,
other times, it is because the spouse talks so much, that their
partner eventually 'tunes them out', opting to hope for picking up
'important words or phrases' as they are uttered.
We
simply need to become better at knowing
when our
spouse will likely be more attentive to what we say. - We need to
make important conversation 'stand out' from the mundane chit-chat,
we indulge in. - We need to overcome our fears and let our partner
know when they are being forgetful. - We need to make paying
attention to our spouse, more important than we typically do.
Finally,
the fact is that everyone forgets what someone says to us, at
some point in time.
So,
unless you married a louse who truly cares less about anything
that you say or is important to you, cut your spouse the slack
that they deserve.
'Nuff
said!
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